Moments like this give every woman an opportunity to decide what kind of person she wants to be deep down. No matter what face we present to the world, no matter what pain we are hiding, no matter what struggle we have been through. We know our worth. We know what we are capable of. We know who we are, who we will always be and we have a choice. We can hide in the shadows or we can stand in the light. -Scandal ”
“Being the best is not what we desire or yearn for, but trying our hardest and never giving up is our key to success and ecstasy.”
How often do we fuss about things we have to do tomorrow, a week from now, even a month from now. We already want to give up before we have reached our destination. We wonder how we are going to make it there, and how tomorrow’s answers will come. Well I have a secret for you. The only way to make it to your destination is to stay present in each hour of each day. Racing to an invisible finish line, or forcing the process doesn’t move you forward any faster. If you out race yourself, you will skip over parts, and will soon have to return and go through it again. Certain challenges we must push ourselves a little harder, so we don’t get stuck. But hurrying tenses us, and will just hold back our progression. Immersing ourselves and our energy into the present moment will help us succeed, and progress. Focus on today, stay with your heart, stay with the present moment, and tomorrow’s answers will come just as today’s did. Be here now.
“It’s not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that defines us.”
Do you surround yourself with people who always tell you that you have made the right decision, or are you surrounded by those who will challenge you when you are wrong? You need people around you, who aren’t afraid to ask those difficult challenging questions, and dig a little deeper.You need accountability in your life. You need to be surrounded by people who will look you in the face and say the hardest thing ever, “you are wrong.” When we are off our path, and lost our way, we need these people to remind us of who we are, to encourage us, to challenge us, and to literally call us out! It’s so easy to just be the friend that agrees with everyone, because really it is just easier to ignore it, then address it. Most of us won’t share our problems, or mistakes with others for fear of judgment, or just because we build up our own self-talk. We make our own beliefs about the situation, and convince ourselves of it, even if what we are telling ourselves isn’t particularly true. So maybe you are not surrounded by a group of honest people, do you still lie to yourself and pretend you are fabulous, even though you made an honest mistake and failed? We must correct our mistakes, and assess ourselves with honesty, and without judgement, as hard as that may be. Everyone makes mistakes, every single day, but it is when we hold ourselves accountable for our mistakes, and try to correct them that we can learn from them. Don’t look for those who will only pat you on the back, look for those relationships that are honest and pure, and will help build a better you.
“Everything – our houses, our clothes, our hairstyles – is meant to help us forget ourselves and to protect us from vanity, greed and envy, which are just forms of selfishness. If we have little, and want for little, and we are all equal, we envy no one.”
Laying in the middle of the field late last night watching the full moon, feeling the beaming energy from it’s light, I became utterly lost in the moment. I speak a lot of disconnecting, and last night, I completely got lost in time. I left my phone in the car, went into the middle of the park, and just laid in the grass. I was absorbing each and every moment. The way the clouds were moving, the way the moon was so bright and full, and the crickets sounding. All this true beauty made me think of the “beauty” we surround ourselves with daily. We need to have the biggest house, the best labels, and the newest new of everything! It’s clearly pathetic what we find beauty in now. Teenagers are comparing their newest Ugg’s and iPhone’s. Our society wants, and wants more. We have to constantly be surrounded by possessions, and we think these possessions hold beauty, and have the power to make us beautiful,and powerful. I am finding that the less we have, the more we appreciate everything. It allows us to grow and to define, and redefine what true beauty means. If we just would just appreciate the true beauty around us, we would envy no one, because we would all have the same beauty, and those who have true beauty, hold more power because they can’t be swayed by possessions. They are already full of love, and selflessness. Maybe in our society, it is tremendously difficult to have true beauty all the time, because we are constantly being shoved down with the next best thing. But with every season we should be reminded of how full we could feel by just looking around at what’s free to us, nature.
“One choice, One choice, decided your friends. One choice, defines your beliefs. One choice, determines your loyalties-forever. Once choice can transform you. – Divergent”
Have you ever really sat down and thought about the choices you have made? How you can literally map out how one mistake or one choice determined the next move in your life? I remember my first day of high school. We all piled into the cafeteria, and were told to sit anywhere till our names were called. I recall sitting down at the same table I sat at for the next four years, along with the same group of friends I met on the first day. I often wonder if I had chose differently, if I would have ended up being a sports girl, or a track star. That simple choice, although then I would have never looked at that way, seems huge now! We make so many simple choices daily, but don’t even realize how big of an impact they hold in our lives. The simple choice of looking up at a stranger and smiling can change not only our lives, but their’s as well. One choice can literally transform you. What will you do with your choices today?
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Starting new is an idea a few friends have asked me for advice about. They had this idea of picking up and moving away to start new. I tried to wrap my head around it, but I just don’t see it as starting new. They were trying to escape, bad jobs, daily routines, etc. Moving away to them felt like an easier way to recreate themselves. For me, if they just escaped that bad job, or tried a different routine, they would be creating new moments, which would make a new identity for themselves. Moving away, doesn’t create change within yourself, but you can alter the way new people see you. I meet someone new in a new place, I can literally be whoever I want to be. They don’t know me, and I can establish myself in a different way. But is that really who you are, is it who you are pretending to be, or is it how you would like to see yourself? Everyday that you wake up, you have moments throughout the day to recreate yourself, if you choose to make the effort. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and certainly moving somewhere new doesn’t solve it. How often do we let a routine get the best of us? How often do we say, “oh tomorrow i’ll do that differently?” Tomorrow rolls around, and we have another excuse lined up. People love comfort, and to move outside the comfort zone takes extreme commitment. Starting anything new always is scary, and people tend to run back for the fear they won’t adjust. But if you really think back in your life you will see, you always adjusted, it just takes some time.
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” —Buddha
Happy September! This weekend has brought me to a place of growth. I took the time to really ponder certain questions a friend had suggested. “Do I want to be right or successful?, Are winning and losing just an illusion? And the last question being, people who have problems, don’t understand their own problems, so how can they understand yours?” We literally are what we think, all day and all night. I use to be a person who would replay a situation in my mind five thousand times, and figure out what I could have done differently. I use to act upon other people’s anger, and actions. But now I am realizing this is not me. Do I want to always be right? We all always want to be right, but I more importantly would rather be successful. So I determined that, by always trying to chose to do the right thing and have that on display, would be better than always having to prove that I was right. Winning and losing are just simply an illusion. You can always find some way to be a winner, but also can find negative points which make you feel like you were really the loser. When it comes to people understanding, as a human we always feel compassionate, but I don’t really think we can ever understand the depth of a problem someone is having. We all have different problems that arise in our lives, but when you are asking someone with their own problems to help you with your’s, it becomes so utterly confusing. Mixed emotions are tied in, and judgment is never clear. Self-reflection I am finding is the best answer. Only you know what the right answer is. Only you know how to solve the problem, and only you can conquer it. Do not be swayed by outside forces, but look within and check with yourself. Most importantly, remember on this new day, of this new month, that this is a new start. You can choose to to be positive, and successful. You are the key holder of your thoughts, choose wisely.