Accountability. . .

“It’s not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that defines us.”

Do you surround yourself with people who always tell you that you have made the right decision, or are you surrounded by those who will challenge you when you are wrong? You need people around you, who aren’t afraid to ask those difficult challenging questions, and dig a little deeper.You need accountability in your life. You need to be surrounded by people who will look you in the face and say the hardest thing ever, “you are wrong.” When we are off our path, and lost our way, we need these people to remind us of who we are, to encourage us, to challenge us, and to literally call us out! It’s so easy to just be the friend that agrees with everyone, because really it is just easier to ignore it, then address it. Most of us won’t share our problems, or mistakes with others for fear of judgment, or just because we build up our own self-talk. We make our own beliefs about the situation, and convince ourselves of it, even if what we are telling ourselves isn’t particularly true. So maybe you are not surrounded by a group of honest people, do you still lie to yourself and pretend you are fabulous, even though you made an honest mistake and failed? We must correct our mistakes, and assess ourselves with honesty, and without judgement, as hard as that may be. Everyone makes mistakes, every single day, but it is when we hold ourselves accountable for our mistakes, and try to correct them that we can learn from them. Don’t look for those who will only pat you on the back, look for those relationships that are honest and pure, and will help build a better you.

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Two Roads Diverged

“You know how every now and then you have a moment where your whole life stretches out ahead of you like a forked road and even as you choose one gritty path you’ve got your eyes on the other the whole time, certain that you’re making a mistake.”

Sometimes my life feels as if I’m constantly faced with two roads diverged. I am always looking for the sunnier, and brighter path. It seems it starts out sunny and bright, but as I progress through it, its endless storms and bundles of troubles. Which makes me often wonder, what if we chose the harder, stormy path? We will have to initially bare the cold of winter, but perhaps a few steps down the road is our haven.  Does it even matter which road we chose? Are we always going to weigh down on ourselves thinking we are making a mistake? I think if we make our choice confidently and don’t look beside at the opposite path, we will gain strength in our choices. But for now, perhaps as Robert Frost says, we should choose the road less traveled.

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